Monthly Archives: August 2021

There are days when things don’t work out the way they should. Like perhaps, the coffee or toast was burnt or it’s a cloudy gloomy day. Someone you communicate with doesn’t reciprocate the way you hope for. Or even just some unlucky event happened and you are just not getting what you want.

You will be in a state of longing and will be more likely to rush for something. You need to be reassured, you want to be validated. You want to be right for that moment. And when you try to fill that gap with your instincts, you are at a high risk of coming up short.

Instincts are important when you are in a dangerous place. Like if you are in a wild jungle and you hear strange noises. Or you are driving a car at high speed and you see an unexpected crossing. In those cases your instincts will tend to do the right thing based on your accumulated experience. It’s when you try to make a non life death immediate decision that this doesn’t have as much reliability.

Things happen that we don’t want a lot of the time. It’s good to be able to take a breather and accept things the way they are. Take a rain check if you need to. Don’t rush into the next thing to try to make things work. Unless it’s a purely mechanical task, you are heading to highly risky wrong instinct territory.

Everyone has a peak at doing something before it goes downhill. It could be quite straightforward like how a sportsperson’s body can no longer keep up the same pace. Or it could be because you just aren’t quite as up to date and responsive like you used to be.

To try and reduce negative impact, you need to acknowledge that you are winning. It might be due to real hard work or talent. Or it could also be due to luck. Whatever it is that got you where you are will not last forever. You might be lucky if you have someone you can fairly compare with to see how you are faring. This is the easiest gauge there is.

Nobody likes to quit when they are winning, and this is not really the point of this post. It is best to stop or leave while you are still up there though. This keeps you in good spirits to go for the next adventure. It also makes sure you leave others with a good impression, as that could be fuel for other things.

In any case, we should celebrate our victories however big or small. This gives us the strength to face days that are not as great.

If you ever have a chance to get a mentor you should always take it up. A mentor is one shortcut to success, whether it be a knowledge mentor, building connections for you or just someone who gives you motivation. Not all of us are lucky to get a mentor who fits our needs early in life. So how do you compensate for this?

First thing you need to ascertain is what sort of mentor you would look for. It helps if you know what exactly you want in life, but for a lot of us this is a difficult question to answer. One way to simplify this is to think about people you want to emulate. Imagine someone in the world who if you could ask them to be your mentor, you would jump at the opportunity. Think of the qualities they possess or the achievements they have made.

Now that you have this, you need to lay the groundwork. Just work on either the quality or make a start on the thing you want to master. It could be as simple as trying to change your behaviour for a specific occassion, or getting into an online course that gives you some essential basic knowledge. This is also a good test of whether you are serious or you are just being a wishful thinker.

If you have already done that, then the next step is to be a little brave. Take your knowledge and start a project, or engage someone and try a newly learned approach. You want to be in a vulnerable position to solidify what you have learned, but also for someone to be able to find flaws in it. It is so important that you do not mistake that you know everything – for you may lose any advice that might have helped you (as a mini mentor)

The main issue with the approach is that you can never be 100% sure you are correct or on the right path. This might be the same case with a mentor but at least I hope people would choose mentors who know what they are talking about. There will be times when your eyes will be opened and what you thought you knew unravels. This is a good thing, it means you found your true gaps and are much closer to your goals.

Perhaps this is a risky way to do things, but sometimes we have to motivate ourselves to find opportunities. A lot of us are just waiting or have some fleeting interests but don’t move forward because of lack of a mentor. It might be slightly uncomfortable, but you still get there. And sooner or later, the mentor you need can be found if you stay on course.

We are living in the era that is more difficult for the layman to predict. It’s not just the sudden lockdowns that happen from time to time, it is also the nature of technology and the speed at which we can take action has ground immensely over the years.

Getting used to chaos is the opposite of what human nature loves. It is going against our comfort zone and not living in true certainty. Yet the greatest things can come from these type of situations. We need to be keenly alert to make full use of what is available.

It’s all about keeping an open mind about situations and predispositions. A lot of things we thought was gospel are getting challenged. This has been the case for science for the longest time, and now that information is traveling at the speed of light, these revelations continue to reverberate across the world.

People who are diligent and hardworking tend to be the most conflicted. Sudden riches are possible, including sudden downfall. It’s as if the law of the world was suddenly flipped on its head but that is not true. We just need to understand that this is a law in itself. Perhaps it is not clear what exactly the boundaries or methods are, but it is a legitimate thing.

Begin to take advantage of this by observing your biases and reactions to certain unexpected events. Whether it’s a meme, a hype or an online movement, take a moment to consider your stand and if there is anything to gain. One must remain objective to be in a winning position.