Monthly Archives: April 2018

University is like a health boot camp. You pay money to an institution, you work like crazy and you get something at the end. In a way you are paying to suffer. In fact the latter guarantees your body to feel good at least for a while.

The premise for going to university as a whole is about graduating. Yet graduating doesn’t guarantee you a job, which is typically what people go to university for. So is it a risk to pay an immense amount of money (and usually youth) for a piece of hope?

The good thing about graduating is the ability to relate to others. You will not be the only one who went through the difficult times. More importantly it is a means of succeeding in something in life. You can be satisfied by the fact that you have a degree in your hand and you worked for it.

The thing is someone was holding your hand all the way. You are under jurisdiction of a certain lecturer’s whims. This generally does not translate well to bringing true success in the real world, because it doesn’t involve following what others are doing.

The real benefit is what Randy Pausch called the head fake. You are really there to make lifelong friends and to try and do whatever you like without worrying that you were too old to risk things. Lectures are online these days, go and live your life.

There are times when I have nearly gotten into car accidents. It could be my fault or it could have been neglect from another driver. Immediately after there is a little bit of fear creeping up. Fear that driving more it may happen again. Fear that I would not be so lucky.

The best course of action I have taken in this situation is to immediately push on the gas pedal to move confidently out of the area. Doing this helps me to limit the association of driving that day with a bad event. Doing this keeps driving a more positive experience.

Our subconscious mind is very strong and it needs to be nurtured to keep out negative associations from neutral experiences. We cannot always keep avoiding things because of a single bad experience.

We make big plans and we make deadlines. Then we deliver them. That’s all well and good if the project is either been done many times before, or if the task is relatively easy.

That’s where agile thinking comes in and it’s great even for just one thing. It forces people to communicate more. Sometimes we go too far ahead in one direction only to have other people unable to complete the task as intended.

It is quite important that there should be consideration for what others can achieve in case it is actually very difficult. Then the outcome is that much sweeter.

Not talking about abuse or anything involving manipulation. I refer to opportunities which present some difficulties and challenges.

We all get this ever so often where we are asked to do something which is beyond our capabilities. Sometimes it’s clear we want to go so the answer will easily be a yes. But what about those grey areas, which are outside your usual scope. Should you say no?

In established major businesses and structures, the default answer is no. The reason behind that is usually there is someone else already tasked with this duty and it’s been given to you. Yet there are times when nobody is responsible for something and you have the chance to champion it. The answer should be yes more often than not.

Times are changing very quickly and we need to continue learning to stay on top of our game. Saying yes keeps your experience on top. And you never know whether what you champion becomes a critical role or a trend later on.

There is a saying I quote from the movie Baby Driver which says “I want to head west on (Route) 20, in a car I can’t afford”. I think this is a good parable of life about what it means to have a dream and hope. What I want to focus on is the open spontaneity this desire entails.

They say if you don’t plan for the future the future happens to you. That is quite true if you have a major plan we would like to achieve. Of course the small mini plans involved in getting this done is also part and parcel. But how about the other parts of life?

I always find it great to have a day unplanned when I am on my own. It gives that awesome feeling of liberty which cannot be replaced. Yet I feel nervous if I don’t have a plan with somebody else. It’s as if life doesn’t function with others without a plan.

Perhaps on the inside we all dread having plans made. Because people hardly meet each other and end up getting so busy with just being themselves. Maybe if we stop overfocusing on needing plans we would really appreciate the beauty of life as is.

When a team builds a product together, very commonly all effort goes to the actual product and not the team dynamics. The result of this is usually that the product becomes very successful but the relationships suffer.

There must always be a balance between the product and the people. Otherwise success will be short-lived or might only enjoyed with some bitterness.

I read a lot of fascinating stuff from gurus in the form of books. Yet sometimes I fascinate myself with the theories to share with others and forget to apply it to myself.

Always try to take the first steps to apply what you learn. I was pleasantly surprised that some of them really work. Of course it helps greatly if you truly believe it works as well.

You made up your mind, you have been there before. Why should you give it another go?

Sometimes the reasons are clear why you should not do something again. Yet no two situations are ever identical. Chances are if you approach a similar situation twice with the exact same mentality though, you will end up with a similar result. That’s the definition of insanity, doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

Sometimes all you need is a mind shift. A way of approaching the problem with a brand new outlook. If you can resist old patterns you might be surprised of what is possible. We just have to give things a chance. Otherwise life is just on repeat.

I once asked a lady why some women dress up over the top. The reason that came to my mind is that it’s to impress men. She told me it is to make themselves feel good. However feeling good from that angle only works if someone else appreciates that look. Women look at other women as well though so may be my thought was just a little bit off. But the point is the driver of the action is not accurate from what I previously thought.

We all have our own reasons to do something a certain way. Each reason is not always exclusive of other reasons. We should therefore be careful of judging others because of the preconceived reasons in our heads. The flow on effect of the action cannot often be fully linked to just the reason for starting.

Somethings seem so frustrating when doing a new thing or going a new route. You might come across difficult situations or be stuck in massive traffic. Time lost on it doesn’t necessarily add up to the end result.

However if we keep a level head sometimes it works out in the end. For example, you might arrive somewhere late only to find the event has not started. Or you immediately get to apply what you learned from the previous road block.

Life works out itself a lot of the time. Call it God or call it the flow of life. Don’t despair.